Trying to conceive (TTC) can be one of the most emotionally complex journeys a woman embarks on. It brings excitement, hope, and possibility but also uncertainty, frustration, and sometimes deep loneliness. Whilst physical health and medical support are often discussed, the emotional side of this journey is just as crucial.
One of the most powerful yet often overlooked sources of support? Community.
The silent struggles of TTC
Many women keep their TTC journey private, whether out of fear of jinxing it, the pressure of well-meaning but intrusive questions, or simply because infertility and pregnancy loss remain deeply sensitive topics. This silence can leave many women feeling like no one truly understands their internal struggles.
The absence of open conversations and shared experiences can make women feel like they are navigating this path alone. According to the NHS, around 1 in 7 couples struggle with infertility, yet the stigma and discomfort surrounding these conversations persist. Adding to this challenge, a study from Fertility Network UK highlights that 90% of women experiencing infertility feel depressed, with 42% reporting suicidal thoughts at some point during their journey.
So, why do so many women feel alone when the numbers show they are far from it?
Why having a community matters
Research has shown that emotional support plays a crucial role in the mental health of couples who are trying to conceive. A strong community—whether in person or online—can offer several invaluable benefits:
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Emotional Validation: Knowing others truly understand what you're going through can reduce feelings of isolation, self-blame, and pressure. For example, hearing someone say, “I’ve been there too,” can be incredibly comforting.
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Shared Knowledge & Resources: From fertility-friendly recipes to holistic approaches like acupuncture or mindfulness, TTC communities often share actionable tips that can make a difference.
- Encouragement & Resilience: On the hard days, being reminded that you are not alone and that others have come through similar challenges can be the motivation you need to keep going.
In addition to these benefits, studies show that having social connections during difficult times can lower stress levels and improve overall mental health, which is critical when dealing with the uncertainties of TTC.
Find your support system
Building a support network doesn’t necessarily mean sharing everything with family or friends if that feels uncomfortable. Instead, it can involve finding spaces and people who truly "get it." Here are a few ways to build your support system:
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In-Person Gatherings or Retreats: Local fertility meet-ups, TTC support groups, or wellness retreats can create opportunities for deeper, face-to-face connections with others on a similar journey.
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Online Forums or Social Media Groups: Platforms like Instagram, Facebook, or dedicated TTC forums offer safe spaces for women to openly discuss their experiences. Naître’s online community, for example, is designed to provide education, inspiration, and a sense of belonging.
- Professional Support Groups: Therapy groups or sessions led by fertility coaches, counsellors, or therapists specialising in emotional wellness during TTC can be life-changing.
The key is finding a space where you feel comfortable, understood, and uplifted whether that’s through shared stories, expert advice, or simply the quiet reassurance that you’re not alone.
Self-Care for the Journey
Beyond finding a community, taking care of your own emotional and physical well-being is equally important. Consider these small yet impactful steps:
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Mindfulness Practices: Techniques like meditation, journaling, or fertility yoga can help manage stress and bring focus to the present moment.
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Nutrition & Supplements: A balanced diet rich in fertility-supporting nutrients, alongside high-quality supplements, can enhance both physical health and emotional wellness.
- Celebrate Small Wins: Whether it’s committing to self-care, taking a step forward in your TTC plan, or simply finding a supportive community, acknowledging these moments can help you stay positive.
